Finding freedom in the unknown

When you don’t know

When everything feels like it’s crashing down and crumbling into a tornado of pieces, and you’re desperately trying to track every single piece flying through the air and make sure a mess is not made.

It’s useless.

It will not work.

It’s time to let go. It’s time to trust.

To trust yourself. To trust your process. To trust life.

It’s time to allow things to get messy and painful, trusting that the pain and the mess are necessary –that they are here for you,

to tear down what is no longer serving.

Let it fly through the wind and out of your life. Let the pieces fall in new places,

more aligned than they were before.

But in the meantime, you must let it get messy. You must trust the chaos.

Trust her.

Let her unravel you.

Let her unearth and uproot what is decaying beneath the surface.

Let her turn over the soil of your soul so it may be renewed and ready for your new life to sprout through.

No need to figure it all out. In fact, please don’t.

This will only add to the confusion.

Let go.

Submit yourself to the mess.

Watch the tornado of frantic, highly convincing “urgent” thoughts scrambling for your attention.

Watch them swarm by with love,

remaining calm and centered at the eye of the storm,

so you may be both the death and birth doula to your soul and the life you are ready to let go of and let in.

Trusting that these seemingly urgent thoughts are simply a grasping at a false sense of control.

Surrender to the true form of control that is only available once you realize you have no control.

Oh, the paradox… 

Trust life.

Trust yourself.

Everything you need to know will perfectly fall in your lap, so obvious and so clear,

but only visible once you let go.

Once you let go of the thoughts that are clouding the sky of your intuition,

it’ll all become so clear.

Trust yourself, my darling. Trust the storm.

Let it pass. Watch it clear.

And soon you will see the light was shining the whole time.

Trust Over Control

I am currently in the midst of so much unknown, and calling in big things. When I find myself in this place, I often feel an urgent need to control things, to make sure I get what I want. But I find that the more I try to control, the further away I get from what will truly fulfill me.

I am seeing more and more that prioritizing my peace (through solitude, creating time for rest, setting boundaries, spending time in nature, moving my body, etc) creates space within my being to receive the clarity I am seeking.

Taking action from trust and peace creates more trust and peace, while taking action from frantic, urgent, controlling, and fearful energy creates situations that lead to more of that.

(This doesn’t mean you won’t feel fear when taking scary, courageous actions. It simply means trust is guiding you, rather than fear and the avoidance of pain.)

What the Unknown Is Really Offering

We tend to resist the unknown and try to create false knowns as a way to feel safe and in control. But false knowns lead to more misalignment, because they are birthed from fear, and fear is limiting.

The unknown is ripe with opportunity to reprogram your consciousness to align with your dreams. Because during this time, many fears and limiting beliefs that are holding you back will reveal themselves to you.

These fear-based beliefs stem from trauma passed down through generations. They originally developed as adaptations that allowed for survival, but they are now outdated, and it does not serve anyone to continue carrying them and believing them as true.

Every time one arises is an opportunity to see that it is not your truth, to feel and honor the pain that has been passed down, and then choose the beliefs that are aligned with your truth.

Choosing a New Story

The truth is that you are worthy of your dreams. Any voice that says otherwise stems from trauma.

I am finding so much freedom in seeing these beliefs I’ve carried as not true, and not mine, and choosing to set them free. In this choice, I not only set myself free, but also the ones who came before me, and the ones who come after.

And that is f*cking powerful. And I choose to be powerful. You are also powerful.

Let’s remember how powerful we are.

How to Trust Yourself During a Life Transition

If you are in the middle of a major life transition, whether that is a career shift, the end of a relationship, or a loss, you are not lost. 

You are in the in-between, and the in-between is sacred ground.

Personal growth through uncertainty rarely looks like progress. It looks like stillness. Like sitting with discomfort instead of running from it. Like choosing, over and over again, to trust yourself when everything inside you is screaming for a plan.

The limiting beliefs that surface during these moments (“I'm not capable, I always get this wrong, I can’t trust myself, I don't deserve what I want”) are not evidence of your reality. They are echoes of old pain asking to be seen and released. 

Healing generational trauma and the stories it left behind is not a one-time event. It is a practice of gentle, persistent return to your own truth.

A Note on Trauma

The point of this article is to empower you to see that you are not the stories your trauma taught you you are. This is not to minimize the very real impact that trauma has. That impact should not be bypassed. 

The imprint it leaves on you is let go of through feeling it as a loving witness to the pain. Oftentimes, this requires co-regulation from being in the presence of someone who can bear witness to it all with you.

If you’re looking for someone to support you through this process, I would be honored to guide you.